Wat do?

[ClanSoul]

My mother's boyfriend has recently created a new rule in that once a week, either my sister or I have to cook a meal.
Initially this was no problem, I figured it wasn't something drastically difficult and if it kept him placid it was worth doing.

I cooked a curry the first time, his response was "I have to admit, I didn't think it was going to taste good."
That's fucking rude. Whenever he cooks, I say "thanks, it was good" or whatever, he has to issue some fucking backhanded compliment that causes me offense - I am a good cook, I know this. My mother knows this, yet she said the same thing as he did. I spent two years doing Food Technology for my GCSEs and everything I made was fucking delicious. I can cook.

The second time I cooked for him, I made a lasagne with dino.
It was delicious, she and I enjoyed it...alone.
Mother and her boyfriend decided to, instead of do the decent thing and sit down with me after I cooked them a meal, go to the pub and get drunk.
Long after dino and I had retired upstairs, they returned drunk and gobbled down the meal. The next morning, mother told me it was good but I got no feedback from her boyfriend at all, not a word of thanks or anything.

So of course, now I do not want to cook for such an ungrateful fuck, though telling him this would result in huge arguments that I can't possibly hope to win (except morally) and would end up with my distinct lack of internet after about 11pm (and I don't get home from work until 10pm each night so that leaves fuck all time for internet in the evenings).

What do I do?

[Jake-Kun]

There is no reason why you should have to comply with the wishes of others if they cannot show some type of appreciation. Perhaps this isn't about being thanked. Rather it is to share the weight around the house(then again, you mother's boyfriend doesn't seem like the one to share responsibilities.)

You shouldn't cook if you aren't being respected for it. While it might make an argument, you have to explain your side to him and let him know that he must show equal respect.

[ClanSoul]

Easier said than done :/

[Jake-Kun]

(29-06-2010 02:13 AM)ClanSoul Wrote:  Easier said than done :/

No one said it would be easy. I don't have to tell you that it won't be, but being disrespected without standing up for yourself will just make it worse.